I wrote about my dad and his kidney situation, so I thought I’d give an update. I went to the doctor today to rule out that I have had a kidney stone. A couple of months ago, I went to the doctor with a backache, thinking I had a kidney infection. They found blood in my urine and figured it must be a kidney stone, so they sent me for a CT.
They did the CT, everything was normal. My doctor’s assumption was that the kidney stone probably passed and told me not to worry. Now, this is precisely how my dad’s kidney disease started out, chronic blood in his urine. I was worried, but my doc assured me it was almost definitely a kidney stone that had passed, and not to worry.
Then last Thursday we found out that my dad was able to receive a kidney and other than the kidney stone situation, I’m probably his best hope for a match. So it was back to the doctor to find out whether or not he thought I had passed a kidney stone, for sure. My urine was tested again, and lo and behold, there’s still blood in it.
My doctor was reassuring, kind of. He said it could be any number of things that do not rule me out to give dad one of my kidneys. Like bladder problems, for instance. Y’all, I have never in my life hoped for bladder problems, but here I am, hoping.
I go to a nephrologist on June 20th to look into this further. My 13 year old is so worried. "What if you have what Papaw has?" he asked. He wanted to know if he could give Papaw a kidney now and give me a kidney later. He was so upset to find he couldn’t give anyone a kidney until he was over 18. "Are you going to die?" he wanted to know. "Will you feel sick all the time like Papaw does?" he asked. I didn’t have any answers. I just asked him to pray that I do not have the same thing as Papaw.
It makes me wonder how parents who have serious, life-threatening diseases tell their kids. "Will you die?" is the hardest question, I think. Eventually, we all die, but does a 13 year old really grasp that concept? They’re still in the whole, "Bad things will never happen to me" stage. I don’t know, dear readers, I really don’t know. I’d love anyone that has this experience to leave a comment and tell me what you think.