In the debate of “nature vs. nurture” when it comes to human personalities, I’m firmly on the side of nature. Yes, environment plays a big part in who you are as well, but I believe that you’re just born a certain way. Either you’re shy, outgoing, or somewhere in between. You have natural talents- you may be a great singer, but can’t draw or paint at all. You’re either tightly wound up, or super relaxed and carefree. You really can’t learn to be another way- it’s just who you are. That being said, I’m always looking for ways to improve myself- I try to make myself be more outgoing, assertive, and adventurous, since I’m naturally pretty introverted. If you have a withdrawn child, you may be looking for ways to help get them out of their shell. There’s nothing wrong with being shy, but being afraid of new experiences will make you miss out on life! That’s why I love this post by Jess at Bring the Kids. Here are some of her tips on how to help your child become more adventurous:
-Lead the way- Kids are going to want to do what you do. If you hike, swim, kayak, and ski, the kids will follow!
-Repetition- Go on adventures with your children often.
-Not pushing- Never make a child do something they’re not comfortable with. Forcing it will just make them refuse to try anything.
-Praise accomplishments- Praise him for being brave, for trying something new, for being safe, etc.