A few months ago, I first learned about love languages. Now, I usually don’t go in for hokey, new-age, self-help foolishness like this. But, I saw it all over Pinterest and decided to check it out. I took the quiz, and was pretty impressed by the results. My primary love language is “words of affirmation” followed by “quality time.” Yep! Pretty dead on. I don’t think I’m very insecure, but hearing “I love you,” or that I look nice, or really anything romantic makes me feel loved- more so than anything else, and I wasn’t really getting that in my relationship. Then, I made my boyfriend take the quiz (to lots of eyerolls from him), and found out that his top “language” was also quality time- but his lowest was “words of affirmation”. Well. That explained a lot. Since then, we’ve both put in work to add in more of each other’s “love languages,” and I feel like our relationship has really improved.
On the site, you can also take the quiz with your children. If you have a different love language than your child, you might need to work extra hard to make sure they feel loved and appreciated. Check out this post by Angela at Together With Family for more:
The love languages are: touch, words, quality time, gifts, and service.
I encourage you today to look out for your children’s love language. Once you do, make sure you keep it in mind when you are parenting that child! I bet if you do, you will see that relationship grow, this is especially great to do with a child you are struggling with! It will make such a difference.